( I enquire Head Ibikunle Odunlani, a Spiritual Leader, Polygamist in Miami, Florida to indite a series handling with the Office of the Blackness man in Polygamy you said it to handle all the wives fairly without favoritism. This is the first article. ) 
POLYGAMY AND THE MAN AND HIS WOMEN
BY Head IBIKUNLE ODULANI, Miami Florida
This is in response and solution to the job:
A man must hold sureness within himself and be unafraid with his milieux. If he, the hubby or even the wife hold the insecurities of sexual nature or utilise belongings to prolong their relationship so the relationship will coil downwardly.
Head Odulani
Apprehension POLYGAMY IS THE Opening TO SECURE RELATIONS
There hold been many treatments about the polygamous society of the Yorubas. If we are to understand the ancient traditional society, we must reconstruct or reorient our intellection and not to interchange the dictionary import of polygamy. We must likewise address the societal conditioning of 400 geezerhood of separation from traditional values.
Firstly, this system is n't a exculpation for sexually promiscuous relationships, be it incited by male or female. It is a system of developing the household.
In our modern-day societal conditioning, we regard things on a worldly or physical grade and can not see the important of `` spiritually caring '' for each other. Learned manpowers utilize the term, polygamy, to sexual work the mothers of their nippers without valuing them. We chance that in traditional society it sanctioned of the multiple wives system, supplied it was liquidated the unfastened and not to the hurt of others. `` Without prevarications or misrepresentation ''. Most relationships in that society start with misrepresentation so we sit back and enquire why we can not hold an enduring or secure relationship. Traditionally, there was too a multiple hubby system, for a wife was free to leave her hubby to take abode as the wife of another man, especially if the first neglected to do her fruitful, but it shoulded be a clean interruption and in accord with the usage which maked not enforce imprimatur through the medium of high divorcement fees or slander. This is not to be judged as fornication, which is not accepted in the tradition, but the right of the soul to have truth in relationships. Fornication is quite different thing. This was a contract between God and man, in which any single perpetrator necessarily and automatically regarded in society-as the organic unit of which that somebody is an built-in part-in `` a offense against the God such as adultery such society went responsible and the penalisation of the God would be dealt out, not but to the people affected, but to society as a whole. Again it Holds necessary to be upfront in ones relationships or confront the upshot of your actions.
I make n't believe that most hold turned pertinent of accepting duties in polygamous relationships. Many who say that they are for this, both workforces and women, get mid watercourse and turn their way. We must be sincere at the beginning of the thing and not hold concealled motivations for participations,e.g., money, rubrics, maintenance or sex,etc. If these are the motivations they should be revealed in the beginning of the relationship and no deceit/lies or concealed dockets. If the beginning is therein way of truth, not but will you hold a permanent relationship, but be able to `` hold your bar and eat it to '', intending that everything will be shared harmonised.
more to come in my following article: Head Odulani Ibikunle
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